“Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Low self-esteem can make your life particularly difficult, especially when you are in a new situation or location, like starting a new job or a relationship. People with low self-esteem often find it impossible to make new friends.
People with low self-esteem tend to avoid situations where they think there’s a risk of failure, embarrassment or making mistakes. These can involve making friends, joining a gym, trying new activities or making friends.
Low self-esteem can lead to problems such as
- Relationship troubles or difficulty making friends
- Low or negative moods
- Low motivation
- Poor body image
- Unusual sexual activity
- Self-destructive habits such as drinking alcohol or taking drugs to feel better
Therapy can help you to discover what is behind your low self-esteem. It can stem from unsupportive parents or friends who are bad influences, trauma, abuse, bullying, loneliness or stressful life events such as divorce or moving houses. Other mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, can enhance the feeling of no-worth.
During therapy, we can build up realistic expectations and examine your true potentials. Accomplishments and mistakes are part of life; we must learn to embrace them and learn from them. Therapy can help you discover what is good in you and focus on the good. Therapy is not a quick fix. You have learnt to see yourself in a certain way; you must be patient and willing to change your view about yourself to give yourself a future where you feel confident and proud of your true self.