If you have low self-esteem, you may find it hard to believe that you are likeable or worthy. In addition, the lack of self-confidence makes it difficult to form relationships.
Most clients seeking therapy present low self-esteem and self-worth, often originating from childhood experiences.
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. We have two selves: our authentic self and our ideal self. The ideal self is how we wish to be seen by our parents, society and environment or their ideas about how we should be. Our true self, however, includes all our strengths and weaknesses. With healthy self-esteem, we have a realistic view of ourselves, accepting it all.
On the other hand, someone with low self-esteem may feel worthless, judge themselves harshly, be unable to see their strengths, lacks confidence and finds it hard to form relationships. This leads to desperately trying to please others to feel liked or accepted. Eventually, they lose their real self and wear masks constantly to accommodate others’ needs. This exhausting act can lead to anxiety, depression, emptiness, and imposter syndrome.
In therapy, we discuss all the influences that might have shaped your self-esteem.
Low self-esteem is often a response to a traumatic event (or events) that can occur at various points during childhood or early years of development. Traumatic events may include punishments, neglect, abuse, lack of feeling affection, not being enough, especially with parents who have high and unrealistic expectations, being bullied and many other negative experiences.
How does therapy help?
We can heal your inner child, nurture it, find your true self and true nature, and help it come through in your everyday life.