Who are you?
“A man must find time for himself. Time is what we spend our lives with. If we are not careful we find others spending it for us. . . . It is necessary now and then for a man to go away by himself and experience loneliness; to sit on a rock in the forest and to ask of himself, ‘Who am I, and where have I been, and where am I going?’. . . If one is not careful, one allows diversions to take up one’s time—the stuff of life.” – Carl Sandburg
You can probably do your make up or shave at dark if you really had to. You are likely familiar with your physical appearance. But how often do you look inward? How familiar are you with your inner self?
Self-reflection is about knowing your inner mechanisms as well as your body. It is a process of understanding who you are: your values, your thoughts, your behaviours and your emotions and their triggers. When you know who you are now, you are likely to bring your life into alignment with whom you want to be.
When you know yourself at the present, you can define who you’d like to become, and that goal-setting motivates you to identify the steps you need to take.
Reflection on behaviour, thoughts, emotional responses to specific events or situations shows you what you need to work on.
Furthermore, spending time spent on personal reflection is an opportunity to check your progress positively. It keeps you motivated and determined to be who you wish to be.
“The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant
What can you gain from discovering yourself?
- Improvement in your relationships
- More rational thought processes: learn to practice the observer’s view and decide clearly about pros and cons and, as a consequence, improved decision-making
- Exploring your values and priorities
- Better sleep
- Calmness and relaxed manner
- Less stress and anxiety
I am here to help you with self-reflection
Talking to a therapist is the most effective means of organizing your thoughts and feelings. I can guide your thought process toward the most important elements of your life and the issues you may be facing. I will ask you prompting questions about the steps you might need to take to make the positive changes you wish to make. Furthermore, I will support you all the way along your journey.
You can do the self-reflection alone, and that’s fine, but talking to a therapist takes a weight off your mind and helps you to be consistent.
What if I’m scared to look into my inner world?
If you are worried about going through your past, you might find a therapist’s support more reassuring and comforting.